Here’s why it’s okay to stop doing chores when you’re tired of cleaning…without feeling guilty.
Are you tired of cleaning up after everyone?
First, let me just say that what you’re feeling is completely normal. You’re not being a bad mom or being a messy person—you’re being human.
Because as mothers, we have a tendency to be extremely hard on ourselves. We set impossible standards that we wouldn’t expect of anyone else—especially when it comes to maintaining our homes while raising kids.
So I know you’re here right now because you’re struggling to keep up with your household chores. You feel this internal pressure to have a Pinterest-perfect house when it doesn’t even need to be spotless every day. (Yep, I said it!)
The truth is, you just need someone to give you permission to reevaluate what’s most important to you right now so you can be okay with putting your chores on the back burner.
And that’s exactly what I’m going to do!
7 reasons to stop cleaning and not feel guilty about it
#1 When the kids are out of school.
For those mamas with school-age kids, you probably know it’s harder to keep your house clean when they’re home from breaks and not cleaning up after themselves.
But if you’re like me with little kids at home all day long, then it probably feels like this year-round if they’re too young for chores.
Regardless, when you’re trying to keep your house clean with kids who love to make messes, you need to give yourself time to create a routine that works for your family—even if that means not allowing visitors to come by your house for a while until you’ve figured out a way to keep the mess under control.
#2 When you’ve just had a baby.
Being a new mom (or a new again mom!) is a beautiful thing! But what’s not so fun is trying to adjust to motherhood and still manage your home like you didn’t just have a baby.
You will burnout fast.
So if you don’t have any help around the house, it’s okay to let it go for the first few weeks while you’re bonding with your new baby. Because that’s all that matters right now.
#3 When you’ve started working from home.
If you’re constantly torn between doing the dishes or completing your work, it’s okay to prioritize your job over your housework.
In fact, I’ve had to do just that in the first few months of starting this blog. Because it was HARD juggling the kids, household duties, and finding time to write too.
But keeping my house clean got easier once I stopped expecting it to be perfect all the time. And when I do want to make it look more put-together, I use quick cleaning tips as part of my weekly routine now to tidy up fast.
#4 When you’ve had a rough day.
Although for some, cleaning can be therapeutic and somewhat of an outlet, it’s definitely not for me.
Whenever I have a stressful day, cleaning my house is the last thing on my mind.
I’m kind of OCD, so I literally can’t lift a finger until I know the coast is clear.
#5 When you could use that extra time with your family.
Especially when the weather is too nice to stay inside! Don’t waste a warm & sunny day in the house because you want to knock out ALL of your chores.
And sometimes getting a bit of fresh air will actually motivate you to clean like a madwoman when you return home.
#6 When you just need a break.
Ever had one of those days you wished you could just clone yourself because you have a lot of things (or little people) fighting for your attention?
Of course, you have mama! And it doesn’t mean you’re failing because you haven’t figured out how to be in several places at once.
Because you’re not superhuman: You can’t do it all.
So the next time you feel exhausted at the end of a busy day, don’t add more to your stress. I’m giving you permission to save a chore or two for another day—because one more day isn’t going to hurt anyone!
#7 When you’re not expecting company for a while.
Use the time you would’ve been spending cleaning things that don’t matter for the things you actually want to do.
Don’t worry! Your house won’t become a pigsty. There are plenty of ways to keep it clean enough while you’re not expecting anyone over.
Then, when you do have guests dropping by you can use these steps to get your home “company ready” fast.
The reality is, nobody cares but you anyway.
Your kids? They don’t notice the mess because they’re too busy being happy.
Your husband? Well, he probably thinks you’ll get around to it sooner or later, which brings up another question:
When should you start cleaning again?
If you’re entertaining guests in a few weeks, then it’s time to tidy up!
Aside from that, if the mess gets the point where it’s affecting your day-to-day life, then it’s time to get it together.
Because when your house is clean, you’ll have:
- Less guilt about the way it looks
- Less stress about all the things you have to do
- Less fear of what other people think about you
- More time for the other things in your life
…and you’ll be proud of your home—imagine that!
Plus, at the end of the day, keeping your house clean isn’t about keeping your family happy. It’s about keeping yourself happy so you can stay sane and enjoy your family more.
So if you’re going through any one of these things right now, give yourself the grace and permission to take a break from one or more of your chores.
Then, when you get sick of the mess, you don’t have to clean it all at once. You can take it room-by-room to prevent overwhelm.
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Why are you struggling to keep your house clean right now? Let me know in the comments.